Your next new letter xxx, another “surprise” for me (smile). And this is really a pleasant surprise, because I can see your answers to my questions. I can feel that your interest in me grow stronger. And that makes me happy. Because I also like our communication, the way it develops. And I really want this to continue as well. How are you today? How is the weather? Have you been waiting for my letter soon? I really try to answer your letters as quickly as possible, as soon as possible. It gives me the feeling that our dialogue is ongoing. So that you can receive an answer to your letter in the shortest time after you wrote me. So that all your emotions and impressions remain “fresh” and vivid and that our communication is positive and easy.
Everything is unchanged here. Time at work flies very quickly. Usually, I come to work by 10 in the morning. And I leave work at 6-7 pm, depending on how many clients I have. I have enough regular customers who like the quality of my work and also communicate with me. You know, I open you a little female secret (smile). Many women, girls come to the beauty salon to relax mentally. Yes, of course, one of their main goals is to make a beautiful hairstyle, hair coloring, manicure, etc. things. But I am sure that the second most important goal of our customers is to have carefree communication with a beauty salon employees, share news from their lives, receive moral support and relax in the end. Therefore, for women, a beauty salon is like an office of psychological, emotional discharge. And almost all the employees of beauty salons are good psychologists and wonderful interlocutors (smile). Therefore, I want to tell you that you can always share with me all your thoughts, impressions of life situations, events. I can listen, understand correctly and sometimes give the necessary advice. I try not to judge people and be as objective as possible when I speak my mind. Enough about my work, otherwise I will start to tell you other female secrets (smile).
As promised in the last letter, I want to devote this letter to you describing the reasons why I seek a man in another country. To tell you more about my past relationships and what kind of man I need in my life, so that this life becomes full, real and brings pleasure and happiness. My first serious relationship with a guy was in the last year of my studies in Moscow. We even started living together, renting an apartment. It was the first, truly serious feeling and the first serious pain. Everything was wonderful while we had study together. But when it ended in our life, quarrels began to appear, misunderstandings, grievances and my boyfriend's parents began to interfere in our relations. In fact, his parents were opposed to our relationship becoming more serious and that I would become his wife. His parents had a lot of money, business and believed that their son should marry only a girl of their level. At that time I was an ordinary provincial girl who could not be proud of any material values. Therefore, his parents believed that my goal was to get into their family and get their money. But I never had such goals in my life! I sincerely loved him and wanted to spend my whole life with him. I didn't care if he was rich or poor. My mother gave me the right upbringing and explained the values of life and how the girl should behave. Therefore, I was very upset that his parents thought so bad of me, I cried a lot at that time. As a result, his parents delivered a tough ultimatum to him and forced him to leave me, otherwise they would have deprived him of all the money, a car and a promising position in their family business. And he left me saying "I'm sorry, but my calm, beautiful life is more important than our relationship with you." After that, there were several long, difficult months when I tried to calm down and forget him. When I was able to do this, that young, stupid, naive, believing in sincere, unconditional love girl died I believe. And another, new Natalya was born. Cold, purposeful, sharp in decision-making, strict woman who devoted the best years of her life to do business. You know, when you do business, you almost lose your personal life. You just won’t have enough free time for this. Therefore, during the years of my life and work in Moscow, I had only two other men, as a serious relationship. Each such relationship lasted 1.5-2 years. At that time I was already more discriminating in people, I avoided communicating with cunning, insidious and deceitful men who simply dreamed of using me for sex or for material wealth. Therefore, those two of my relationships were with men who were also successful in business and did not have selfish goals in order to receive something from me. But in the end, those relationships ended the same way. We became strangers to each other, lost interest and love faded. Because we could not spend enough time with each other. We woke up early in the morning and met only before bedtime. Sometimes, due to business trips, there were long separations (several weeks). And in the end, we realized that such a relationship would not have further prospects and parted by mutual desire. In those respects, I have always been faithful. I never allowed myself to flirt with other men or give any hints and hopes to other men. Because I believe that fidelity and the ability to be faithful is one of the most important qualities that every woman should have. If you say to a person “I love you”, then you must confirm this with actions so that your man feels your sincerity, devotion and never has even the slightest reason to doubt or suspect you. My mother gave me such an upbringing and showed it by her own example. As I said, she was faithful to my father even after his death, because they had real love that no one and nothing could replace for her. When I was a teenager, several times I tried to convince her to try to find another man. I told her that in this case it would be easier for her, that she should not lock herself in, that she could still be happy again. But she never even wanted to think about it. She always said that in her life there was only one man whom she loved and still loves, and this was my father. I understand that it’s probably strange for you to hear this, that there are such people. You live in another country, with different moral principles, behaviors among people... But in my country, behaviors like my mom used to be seen often. Then we also lived in a "different" country. Then there was the USSR, people were different, people were better, kinder, more sociable and there were fewer indifferent egoists. Of course, I was a child then, but I well remember all this. And to be honest, I would really like it all to come back. Unfortunately, this is no longer possible.
Forgive me for stepping aside from what I wanted to tell you in this letter (smile). But I wanted to share these thoughts with you ... I think you can get it right. After those few relationships, I realized that it would be difficult for me to find a decent man for family life here in my country. You know that now I live in a small town. At my work every day I hear a lot of complaints about local men from their wives or girlfriends. I understand that among men who are free for relations, there are practically no worthy men left. Someone prefers to drink a lot of alcohol, beat women. Someone prefers to have many women at the same time and raise their self-esteem so. Others dream that they will lay on the couch and watch TV, while their wife will work in three jobs, get tired and provide for this loafer. All of these options are not suitable for me. And I decided not to waste my time looking for a man in my country. While I lived in Moscow, I had the opportunity to communicate with foreigners. I always liked the way they talk about life, what goals they have, what views and principles they have. It has always been very close to me and attractive. Therefore, I made such a decision that I want to connect my life with a foreigner. At the same time, I know that foreign men are also interested in Russian women, our rich inner world, good soul and family values. Am I right (smile)?
As you can understand, I did not have as much experience in relations with men, despite the fact that I’m already 38 years old (smile). But even this is not a great experience. All those things that I had in my past life, all this allowed me to form the image of a man that I want to have next to me. I realized that now it doesn’t matter to me whether he will have a lot of money or not, what social level he will have, and how this man will look externally next to me. I realized that all these are absolutely false qualities and not so important. Now I want to have a man who will be sincere with me in his feelings. A man who can give me all his care, a sense of calm, security. A man who will be able to listen and understand me correctly. Which will not hide from me his feelings, thoughts or any experiences, if any of this presents. And for such a man, I will try to become an ideal wife. I will give him all of myself. All my love, care, tenderness. I will create coziness, comfort, delicious food in our house. Even if this house will have an area of only 20-30 square meters. Because it does not matter the size of the place in which we live, if we are truly happy and love each other. I will always support my man in his endeavors, in his deeds and ideas. But at the same time, I do not want to see a morally weak man next to me. I do not want to be the leader in the relationship, to tell the man what he should do. I do not want to be a commander or that woman who, with one loud, harsh word, closes his mouth and does not allow him to be a real man. Now I finally realized that I just want to be happy and loved. I do not want to be higher than my man in a relationship. I want to be near him. And then together we can achieve any success and have a happy life.
I hope that after everything you read, you are not scared and will not stop writing to me (smile). It will be very important and interesting for me that in your next letter you write to me all your thoughts that you have after my letter today. Because I have put enough of my thoughts and desires in this letter. It will also be interesting for me to hear about your past relationships and the reasons why it ended, if you are ready to tell me this of course. I’m also interested to know about the qualities that you are looking for in a woman with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. It may be too early to ask such a question, but my female curiosity makes me do this (smile). At the moment, according to the information that you have from my letters about me, do you think I could become for you the woman you are looking for?
On this question I will end my letter today.
I will look forward to your next answer.