HONEY.
(1) believe that the most important 'key' to a successful relationship would have to be 'trust'. I believe that with trust, love will follow. However, what I have noticed is that many people think trust, or expect that trust is to be earned by the other person, when in all actuality it is something that comes from within yourself. All too many times people will say they don't trust due to past experiences. What they don't realize is that they have built up those proverbial walls to protect them from the very thing they are searching for... yes, there is a risk in trusting someone, but when you finally find that 'right' person, it makes all the past experiences and lessons learned very much worth the risk. All of life's little lessons do not have to be painful... even when they seem so at the time.You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on. Nothing is worth closing your heart. Nothing is worth living in a world of fearing what bad 'may' come to you. Without trust, you close your heart to the happiness and joy that true love brings. It's only my experience... and it's what I believe has given me the wonderful gift of 'true' love. It's a hard thing to do, a scary thing, but very much worth it. This is not to go without saying that some people may betray your trust... that's the risk... but why allow past betrayals to prolong the pain by building a fortress around your heart that not only protects you from pain/betrayal, but also denies you the ability to experience happiness and joy? Most have been hurt enough by one person, why allow them and their actions to stop us from finding what we search for? I say open your hearts to trust and bask in the beauty, happiness, and joy, of the true love that will follow. For everyone there IS a someone, you just can't find them if you hide away all your life
The most important key to success is making sure you call the person you care about or love, and be there whenever he/she needs you. Just care for that person with all your might
Friendship is most important in any relationship. I feel that if you can't be friends first what chance do you have at being lovers? With friendship you have to have trust and respect. You have to like the person you're friends with to get along together. Once that is accomplished falling in love with them is just an extension of friendship, only stronger and better. Like the foundation of a brick house, love must also have a foundation. That foundation is friendship. You must have a strong foundation (friendship) in order for love to withstand the test of time
Validating your partner's feelings. It's so important to be heard in a relationship even if you do not agree with what is being said, One of the most important 'key' to a relationship is not worrying about how long it will last, when it will or won't end, and enjoying every moment possible together
I feel that a relationship should always be based upon honesty and acceptance. When you can fully accept yourself, honesty will come naturally. This in return will leave your partner feeling comfortable with you, knowing there is nothing to hide. If two people can see each other in full view with complete acceptance, they can build a successful relationship from this Quality time spent together, pillow talk, one on one, being open about everythingAlways showing you love each other all the time by celebrating on different occasions like the first time you met each otherI think the most important key to a successful relationship is when you truly enjoy each other's company
Commitment is the greatest key to a successful relationship. If you are committed you will always find a way to work things out
I think it is friendship! You can love someone like that and still be best friends and it's the best. Plus if they are your best friend, can't best friends stay best friends forever? If you just love someone for their physical aspects, there's no friendship or similarities between you except that
Passion. Without feeling passionately towards your mate the communication, sex, intimacy, and ultimate closeness will not be there, which in turn leaves each partner wanting/needing more from the relationship than they are getting. I know because I've lived it. My husband and I had everything. Money, companionship, friends, a home, great jobs, but we didn't have passion. We were basically friends. Friends are just that friends... husbands or wives should be in love and life partners... that doesn't happen without feeling passion for the other person
Communication... talking and open honest communication about how you feel. What makes you happy and what upsets you. If you don't tell your partner then they can't do what makes you happy and vice versa
Communication. In many instances, 'communication' can be used in place of 'relationship'. If you withhold something from your spouse or lie to them, the communication (or relationship) has ended. If you chose not to be truthful, because you're afraid they may leave or be upset, you've got nothing to lose -- the relationship is already over. You may continue to go through life together, but you'll never have a 'relationship
The way a person treats his/her parents reveals how they WILL treat you! If it's with love, kindness and respect, then this is what you will receive. But if it's with criticism, defensiveness and disrespect, then this too you will receive... EVENTUALLY... it's almost certainly a guarantee! So watch and listen to the answers you get in their actions and words BEFORE you jump into bed.
INTELLIGENCE
I'm not talking about a woman with a PhD in Math, but someone who knows what a newspaper is and how to read one. Yes, I want someone that I can talk to about current events and they know what they are. A man who can complete a sentence. One where every other word out of his mouth is not a curse word. Yes, such men do exist!
STRENGTH
I want a woman to be strong. Not just physically to lay me down on a bed and seduce me, but also mentally. I want a woman to be strong for me during my moments of weakness, yet be strong enough to let me be my own man, her man. A woman who will allow me to be Her source of strength. To allow me to give her the support and the positive criticism that she needs to make it in this world. To know that despite all things, I will always have her back, even when I'm mad at her.
Comforting
I need a woman who can wrap his arms around me and I can feel that there is nothing bad in my world. When I need a shoulder to cry on, he gladly offers her. He will hug me for no other reason than I've had a bad day. A woman when he needs a shoulder, Because that is a sign of strength to me, not weakness.
Honesty
Nothing will break up a relationship faster than people who are not honest with each other. If there is someone else that has captured your eye, say so. Don't sneak behind my back and I find out later. Sure, relationships have bumpy roads, things change, and people change. If you are not happy with me, tell me. Trust me, I would have more respect for you for telling me the truth and we move on than to live with lies. You don't have to tell me every little detail of your past. You have yours and I have mine. All I ask is that we be honest as we possibly can while with each other. Remember, "Do unto others."
DEPENDABLE
I'm still from the old school that a man is as good as his word. The worst thing that you can do is make plans with me and not call or show up. If I'm important enough to you and you for me, there is no reason in the world not to follow through on plans. If something comes up, there is a telephone around for you to use. Sorry, but unless you have been kidnapped by aliens, no excuse not to keep your word. Don't say we have a date on Friday, it's solid and I'm waiting for you and don't hear from you until Monday. TRUST ME, you have only a few times to do that and the "relationship" will end. I'm a person of my word and expect any man who is serious in my life to be also.
Spiritual
I don't mean religious, there is a difference. But a woman who loves and has a respect for God and her family. A woman who believes in the power of prayer. Of a higher power giving her strength and love to make it. To be the spiritual head of her household, to be an example for her man and her family.
Communicative
I need a woman to talk to me. About her hopes, dreams, fears, frustrations, fantasies. Tell me about her day, good or bad. Tell me how she feels about me, how she hopes I feel about her. An email, text message, ecard, something to let me know what's on your mind. If a woman can express herself to me, he can own me. Communication is just as important to me as trust. You cannot have a relationship without it. You don't have to call me ten times a day, but you cannot just call me a few times a week and expect me to think you care. Sorry, no excuse not to stay in touch in this day and age of technology.
Romantic
I need a woman who is just as much a hopeless romantic as I am. Who will take me by the hand during a summer rain and make love to me in the backyard. A woman who leaves me little post it notes on the mirror saying how much she loves me. A woman who will call me during the day just to hear my voice because it's so sexy and turns her on. Who gives me a single rose just because. Who will read poetry to me while I lay on her Arm and fall sleep. One who doesn't mind cuddling in the bed or just holding me close and sniffing my hair.
Spontaneous
I want a woman who keeps me guessing. Always full of surprises. Who will rent a limo to take us to dinner at IHOP! Who will surprise me with a romantic weekend away at a hotel. A quick trip to Atlantic City, a day trip where we just drive around and drink Slurpees and talk. A woman who will have a picnic dinner ready on the living room rug after work. Who will always join me in the shower or grab my Dick whenever I walk past her. And won't mind me doing the same.
Hard Working
There is nothing worst in this world than a woman who won't work. I don't mean she has to have a six figure income, but at least work at a job and do your best while at that job. I have more respect for the garbage woman than I do for lawyers. Don't get me wrong, but a woman who takes pride in her job, will take pride in herself and her man. A woman who takes care of her family, handles her business without being told, knows her priorities, that's the woman I desire.
Humorous
A woman who can make me laugh, laugh at herself and the world is very rare indeed. Don't get me wrong, yes, she can and should be serious about most things, but not everything. Laughter is the best medicine and sometimes when things are going wrong in life, you have to laugh at it.
Sexual
Be a freak with me, to me, for me and I shall be YOUR freak. I'm talking about the type of woman where sexually everything has a GREEN LIGHT! When I'm into a woman, it is her body as well as her mind that I crave. Loving someone to me is being sexual with them, it's an expression of the love I have for her, she for me. The word "no" is not part of her vocabulary where sex is concerned. If I ask her to make love to me on an elevator, she has no problem pushing the "stop" button. I want a woman to want me, one that won't be able to keep his hands off of me. Be my freak and I will be yours.
Looks
You wouldn't be human if looks weren't semi-important. What attracts me most are men who are tall (more than 6'1") and thick (230 to 270 pounds). If you have thick thighs and a nice butt, YOU COULD OWN ME! I guess because I'm a tall thick woman, I think only a tall thick man can handle me! LOL! No offense to the shorter brothers, but because I'm five foot ten, I like when a man holds me, his arms are high when they are wrapped around me. I like placing my head on his chest. That's just me. However, I'm not so shallow that if a shorter man comes into my life and treats me well that I won't be good to him. As long as he doesn't break mirrors when he walks past them and I'm able to snuggle in his arms when we are in the bed together, it's all good.
Common Sense
Please, please Lord send me a woman with common sense. One that knows to ask me questions because I can't read her mind. One that will apologize when she's wrong. One that knows if it's going to rain to roll the car windows up. A woman who will ask for directions if she's lost (I know, part of the woman code not to)! To know that just because we have a disagreement it's not the end of the relationship. To know that COMPROMISE is part of anything in life, there are no "winners and losers" but that we are two people who care enough about each other to make adjustments for whatever is required at the time. Sometimes in life you have to agree to disagree.
MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK
1. Openly love your partner..
Most marriages fail because one partner feels the other isn't affectionate enough towards them. This leads the particular person to believe that they don't love them the way they used to. The fact of the matter is that often times we've spent so much time together, we don't really realize our physical affection may have waned. It is important to make sure you keep showing affection. Don't stop holding hands. Play footsie under the table. Not only will you make love an integral part of your relationship, but if you have children you'll be teaching them how important affection is to a relationship.
2.Handle your upsets.
The longer you let a rift occur in your marriage the more each partner will begin to separate and disassociate with the other. This is even, and sometimes especially, true for unspoken problems as well. Do not let a problem go unspoken. If you're the type of person that holds things in, don't. How can you and your partner handle the problem if they don't even know about it? If you're the type of person that needs to feel right about every argument, don't. How can it be more important for only one person to be right than the couple as a whole? By handling a problem and coming up with a solution together you gain as a couple, and individually.
3. Respect your partner as they are.
When you first met you probably thought your partner was capable of doing anything, including roping the moon. As time goes on you realize that they are fallible, just like the rest of us. Realizing that your partner is human shouldn't be a cause to nag, change or treat your partner differently. They are still the same person, just as you are. The next time you're thinking of what you don't like, think about how you might have changed in your partner's eyes and work on that instead
4. Be aware of each other's limits.
Nothing can get a person riled up faster than feeling like they are being pushed into a corner. This doesn't mean that you are the cause, but as their life mate it is your responsibility to be their support team. If you see your partner is getting too stressed about something like work, help ease it by taking them out to dinner. If you know they are facing a hard time, make an effort to ease their situation by doing things together that remind them they have someone they can trust and lean on.
5. Talk about anything and everything.
I can't emphasis enough how important talking is. If you're not talking to each other, who are you talking to? Who more than anyone should know what is going on in your life? There is only one person to whom you have pledged your life and affection. If you can't find the time or place to talk do what my love and I do, go for a long car drive and just talk until you feel better about things. Since you're in the car you don't have any outside distractions like kids, the phone ringing, the dog barking, etc. to divert from your communication.
............... 7 Secrets of a Successful Marriage..............
1. Be each other's support system.
You go through many things in a lifetime. It helps to know there is someone to help you shoulder the hard times. When your partner comes to you or needs an encouraging word, give it to them. Your vote of confidence can do wonders for your partner and in turn better your relationship.
2. Be able to compromise.
By now we should all agree that people can't always have their own way. Applying the art of compromise is a healthy solution to settling a disagreement. Be willing to look for new avenues for exchange in order to make things feel fair to your partner. You might try a back rub in exchange for dish washing duty or quiet time together in exchange for a guy's night out. Compromising can help you turn your differences into new ways to discover each other.
3. Express your love in a variety of ways.
Don't just say it; show it. Don't just show it; say it. In other words, find more than one way to express your affection for your partner. Variety is the spice that keeps a marriage together. Leave a love note under your partner's pillow. Write "I love you" in lipstick on the mirror. Hide a rose on your partner's car seat. Stop and give your partner a very unexpected weak-in-the-knees kiss. Mail a hand-written love letter. Avoid falling into a boredom rut by continually striving to try and do new things together.
4. Respect each other's individuality.
Encourage your partner to participate in individual interests they may have. In fact, take that encouragement a step further and occasionally join your partner in their favorite past time. You'll be showing your partner that you not only understand who they are, but that you love them exactly how they are as well.
5. Always leave on good terms.
Life is unexpected. No argument is worth parting ways while upset with each other. If you can keep this in mind, it will go a long way to helping you put certain aspects of your relationship in perspective. Learn to value your relationship enough to never let things get that out of hand.
6. Be kind and considerate to each other.
This may seem like a given, but how many times have you snapped at your partner under stress, or made an unnecessary remark? Words and the tone in which they're used leave a lasting imprint. You can use this to make your couple memories something you will happily look back upon…or not. Long-term married couples make kindness and respect toward their partner a crucial part of their daily lives.
7. Exploit each other strengths, not weaknesses.
Think of yourselves as a team. Together you are going to try and accomplish many things from buying a house, bettering your careers, raising children and more. If you spend your time nit-picking each other about what you're doing wrong, you're wasting valuable effort that could be put towards making your dreams come true. If you were to encourage a group of employees, you wouldn't tell them how horrible they are doing. You would start with positive, motivating statements. Learn to incorporate this towards each other. Find where each other's strengths are and use them to your ability. One of you may be a more sales type personality, the other the organizer. Find out where you fit and how you can use those traits to better your team of husband and wife.
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